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awaits all adults who have the
answer in mind when they question children,
it is their own fault for the question is not sincere.
seek their own image in another person and
hurt when they find that the other is truly other.
do we give our children the best start in life?
Parents takes the unique Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) approach to
self-development and shows you how to apply it in your relationship with
children. Instead of telling children what to think, how to behave
and who to be… with NLP we can influence children to develop discernment
and exceptional cognitive skills to be able to create the life they want.
learn primarily through modelling. They emulate or copy the behaviours
of the people around them without any understanding of the thinking that
motivates the behaviour. When we relate to children through limiting
beliefs they can model our behaviour and so inadvertently take on limiting
beliefs. With limiting beliefs comes an impoverished life.
Parents is about improving our own lives. It is a process for freeing
ourselves from limiting ways of thinking and behaving. Our children
can then benefit in three ways;
They can model our new behaviours.
They can model the process by which we make personal changes when
we discover unconscious beliefs/filters that have been limiting our personal
The way that we relate to them is a model for how to respect each
other’s personal freedom and ability to learn to learn.
can only give what we have
Parents is the approach to parenting that you have been looking for.
You want to relate to children in a congruent way, that is, the very freedom
that you want is the same freedom that your children can have.
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If human beings are able to learn…
If human beings can communicate with themselves and each other through
verbal and non-verbal forms of communication…
If human beings, through their communication, can offer differences to
themselves and others that can be used to enhance or improve aspects of
Then Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is the most advanced form of communication
for influencing ourselves and each other to learn how to make the most
of our human potential.
As an NLP Consultant I have helped my clients develop greater confidence,
learn skills for creating satisfying relationships and motivate themselves
to make their dreams and goals a reality.
But this notion of personal development is intriguing. It is about learning
to choose what you want your life to be like… and then making it happen.
But what if you haven’t learned how to do this? What if you are aware
of habits in your thinking and behaviour that make life less than enjoyable
or perhaps even miserable?
When we were children we were influenced by many people. Obviously our
parents or immediate carers were probably the most influential people
in our lives. We modelled or emulated our parents and other people and
learned many things. If the people we modelled thought they could learn
and do anything then we learned to do that too. If we modelled people
who were limited in their thinking then we learned how to limit what we
thought we could do and what we could have.
When parents develop greater personal resourcefulness, learn what is most
important to them and learn how to enjoy life even more, then they model
for their children exceptional skills.
And this is what you can do with NLP. You can discover limiting ways of
thinking that lie in your unconscious mind; limiting thoughts and beliefs
that, although you may not be consciously aware of them, govern your behaviour.
You can learn how to change limiting thoughts and create more choice.
With greater personal freedom you can do… whatever you want. And when
you can do that how will you relate to your children? Will you want to
encourage them to limit themselves or will you want to encourage them
to nurture their own personal freedom and their ability to learn and do
whatever they want?
You can only give what you have. Think about that. What do you have?
We are going to start with a look at The Conversation with my Unconscious.
This will give you some idea of how I have questioned many of the limiting
ideas that govern peoples’ lives.
We will then have a closer look at how our use of language can give us
an insight into the unconscious beliefs and ideas that shape our thinking
and behaviour and how they affect the ways in which we relate to others,
Then we will have a look at how we can use NLP formats or exercises to
become aware of limiting or problematic habits and replace them with greater
behavioural flexibility and emotional intelligence.
And then we will end with a suggestion, and the suggestion is this; that
the essence of parenting, the art of parenting if you will, is relating
to children in such a way that your influence encourages them to learn
how to think so that they can choose what to think for
themselves. Then, and only then, can your children choose to live life
as they want, and do what has up until now been a most rare phenomenon...
think creatively and with wisdom to experience the sensory delights that
life has to offer.
Keith Gilbert (Grad.Cert.NLP)
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you want to learn how to relate to your children with NLP? Then
the first step is to discover what emotional intelligence is and how you
can develop it. You can click here
to go to the Developing Emotional Intelligence
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